‘The Help’ 2011? Domestic Worker Abuse Widespread

Domestic servant abuse extends beyond the novel, "The Help". Image Credit: Flickr

Last week, I finally saw the film version of “The Help,” based on the best-selling novel by Kathryn Stockett about the lives of African-American maids working in white people’s homes in 1960′s Jackson, Mississippi. I hadn’t read the book prior to watching the movie which I really loved.

Although the movie showed the racist and unfair treatment of primarily black women at the hands of their white employers, I am sure there were much worse stories the movie did not go into. In fact, just bringing up the topic of the rampant verbal, physical, and mental abuse people inflict upon their domestic help on my Facebook page brought up stories from Dhaka to Potomac, Maryland.

Both before and after the movie, as a Bangladeshi I could not help but let my mind wander beyond the racially segregated America of the 1950′s and 60′s to modern day lives of domestic servants back home. Domestic servant abuse, primarily of female maids but of men and children as well, is so rampant back home that it is practically considered cultural.

Every now and then you’ll hear a story of how someone you know beat their servant so badly he or she ended up in the hospital. And although you may get a gasp here or there as a response, it is largely accepted as a normal part of life. Very rarely do the police get involved and in the rare cases that they do, “justice” is always on the side of the employer. In Bangladesh, and in the Sub-Continent at large, people consider the people who work for them their disposable property to an extent.

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Working to Make A Safe World for Women

I was interviewed by British NGO A Safe World for Women Founder, Chris Crowstaff recently on some topics very close to my heart: Bangladesh, Islam and feminism.

Chris and I connected over Twitter (go social media!), and we made an appointment to have a conversation about these issues. The full  interview is divided into four parts.

You can view Part one here, Part two here, Part three here, & lastly Part four here.

Check it out when you can. I’m honored to be in the company of such great women all doing our part to create a safer world for women and girls.

Moms of the World: How Women Tackle the Myths of Motherhood

Motherhood Manifesto: How Does the Ultimate Feminist Take on the Challenge of Becoming a Mom? Image Credit: Flickr

How women take on motherhood, and all the challenges that come with it, has been an issue I have always been intrigued by though I did not always understand it.

In my twenties, I spent much of my time lamenting about motherhood being equally imprisoning as marriage. In my thirties, being a married woman who is expecting her first child any day now, I of course realize how incorrect I was to generalize an amazing and complicated experience that connects women from around the world.

One of the best discoveries I stumbled upon in my own pregnancy, aside from my 200lb swollen hands and feet, was the incredible resource women are to you when you are expecting. Women are a wealth of knowledge as you try to navigate through pregnancy and impending motherhood.

So naturally as questions of tackling work-motherhood balance plague my mind now more than ever, I decided the best people to get answers from would be other moms. My good friend from college, Camila Figueroa de Fernández, and I came up with the idea to speak with mom friends I had from around the world about the greatest challenges they faced as mothers, what surprised them the most about motherhood, and if they think it is ever possible to achieve balance as a mom. I asked every friend the same five set of questions.

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Purses Over Policy? Pakistan’s Foreign Minister Makes Headlines

Hina Rabbani Khar was just appointed Pakistan’s first female foreign minister, but by reading the headlines you would be forgiven for thinking she had just become the country’s latest fashion export.

Khar went over to India this week, marking the first official state visit between the two countries since the 2008 terrorist bombings in Mumbai, after which India suspended communication with its neighbor and rival. Negotiations and peace dialogues between the two countries pretty much stalled until earlier this year.

Birkins and Business: Khar is Pakistan's First Female Foreign Minister. Image Credit: Views of Women

But the newspapers had no interest in conversations the newly appointed foreign minister had about unfreezing what is often described as “one of the world’s most tense bilateral relations,” instead opting to focus on Khar’s wardrobe:

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Diary of a Pregnant Woman: My Top Five Pregnancy Don’ts

At Six Months in Provincidales. Image Credit: Shayan Pahlevani

32 weeks ago when I first found out I was pregnant, I was extremely conscious about not turning my blog into a “Mommy” blog, even as I became one myself. Although I have written about my big fat feminist pregnancy already, as this experience nears to a close, I came up with a list of inquiries I found the most annoying during my pregnancy that I had to share:

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A Beating for a Phone: Women Struggle to Access Mobile Technology

People are always shocked to learn how widespread and easily available mobile technology is in “developing nations” like Bangladesh, Kenya, and Afghanistan. When my husband visited my city of birth, Dhaka last year he could not believe how many people had cell phones in a country where more than half of the population cannot access clean drinking water.

Non-profit organizations are using mobile technology to spread development, allowing rural populations more access to their programs and basic health services. The advantages of having a mobile phone are endless, but how easily are these advantages available to women?

Beyond Making a Call: Mobile Technology Gives Women Access to More Freedom in South Asia. Image Credit: Flickr

Not without serious difficulties as a news story by Bloomberg News reports. The title of the news story, “Afghan Women Tolerate Beating for Wireless Phones in a $4 Billion New Market,” pretty much says it all, reflecting the barriers women in some countries in South & Central Asia, and Africa have in accessing technology that can increase their mobility and give them an income.

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Not So Lovely: Bollywood Promotes Skin Bleaching

Bollywood Feeds Us Beauty Myths, But Why Do We Buy Them? Watch Me Debate.

Friday night I was live on Canada’s CBC discussing the role Bollywood plays in establishing beauty standards for South Asian women, telling us that lighter skin makes us beautiful, a myth which feeds the ridiculous marketing of whitening creams in the region. Although this is a topic I have covered in the past, nothing has changed. Are South Asians still suffering from a colonial complex?

Watch me debate live and tell me, what do you think?

Starting the Engine: Saudi Women Drive for Their Rights

Women in Saudi Know the Right to Drive is the Start to Gaining Their Basic Rights. Image Credit: Flickr

The spirit of the Arab Spring broke the steel gates of the Kingdom of Saudi Arabia today as one by one Saudi women started their engines, defying the country’s notorious ban on women driving, the only place  in the world where women are not permitted to drive.

Today’s protest is the culmination of an online campaign that started last month when IT security consultant Manal al-Sharif posted a YouTube video of herself behind the wheel. She was arrested and jailed for ten days. Her detention sparked an international outcry from rights groups, demanding Saudi’s rulers remove the driving ban on women.

Religious edicts by the Kingdom’s senior clerics claim the ban “protects against the spread of vice and temptation.” In reality the restriction forces families to spend a significant amount of their income hiring foreign drivers.

Chairwoman of the Department of Middle Eastern Languages and Cultures at the University of Virginia, Farzaneh Milani explains the real fear behind the ban:

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Huma Abedin: Anything But the ‘Good Wife’

Weiner's South Asian-Saudi Raised Wife is a Powerful Assistant to Hillary Clinton. Image Credit: Flickr

Disgraced democratic Congressman Anthony Weiner’s wife, Huma Abedin, has been garnering just as much press as her scandal-ridden husband in the wake of Rep. Weiner admitting that he not only sexts, but has had online relationships with as many as six other women.

Normally when a politician is caught with his pants down, on or offline, the  media’s attention wanders over to the wife: Will she or won’t she stand by his side as he weeps for forgiveness at the podium? And then, of course, the inevitable question is whether or not she will leave him.

But Weiner’s wife is no ordinary political wife. Abedin’s parents were both academics from India and Pakistan. A practicing Muslim born in Michigan, Abedin moved to Saudi Arabia as a young girl, and returned to the US to attend college at George Washington University (GWU).

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